You action are writing the book of your life right now. No second chances, no take two—this is it.
I recently read a quote that was noted to be one of the most confronting quotes ever written:
“The definition of Hell: The last day you have on earth, the person you became will meet the person you could have become.” (Anon.)
What shocked me more than the quote was my reaction. I wasn’t really fazed by it.
I already knew I was doing the best I could. I haven’t achieved many of my big goals yet, but I know I am working at them. So I want to write a book. I don’t write every day, but I do at least read every day. And yeah, sure, I would like to write more, but the experiences, days out with friends—I wouldn’t give them up for anything.
To be honest, I don’t have much. I walked away from a painful past, and yeah, that sucks to think about sometimes, but it is OK too. I did what was right for me, and that is what is important—not the balance of my bank account, not the material possessions I own, not how far up the corporate ladder I am or even how far I have travelled.
I don’t believe these things define success. All that matters is that despite the circumstances in my life, I have done my best. And yeah, I have got it wrong, and I do have regrets, and sadly, I have caused hurt. But I have learnt from it and grow as a result.
Parts of my past will always hurt, but I have accepted the outcome; I have accepted that I did my best at the time.
I think that if I did meet myself, the person I could have been, I would see a reflection.
For me, personally, as long as I do continue to take regular steps in the direction of my bigger goals, as long as I pause to enjoy life along the way, as long as I learn from my mistakes, as long as I do what I can to help others and do what is right for me—I will meet exactly who I was meant to be.
This is my life—it is my history. I will be great in just the right way for me, and I own that. I am proud of that and proud of my future, present and own my past.
Forget about what society, friends or family think you should be. Find a way to just be you, accept that and push through, as you need to. Cry when you need to, laugh when you can and find a way to understand your story and how you fit into that instead of trying to fight it.
“The only person you should try to be better than is the person you were yesterday.”
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