At a young are we touch the flame, it is hot and it hurts. From this we learn not to touch fire.
We develop quick reflexes when something painful comes into contact with us – pricking our fingers with a needle or even hitting our elbow will cause us to pull away quickly.
As we grow, we go through these physical pain reflexes first. Then the emotional lessons come. We want our parents to always say yes, we want devoted friends and we want unwavering attention when we fall in love.