Endings are not the Point

One of my favourite philosophers Jason Silva muses in this capture of awe about the impermanence of love.

I see this hesitation, deliberation, almost a reason not to – at the impermanence of things by many in this world yet it has me baffled.

Baffled because it is all so very impermanent. Because impermanence is all there is.

Life is impermanent yet we live it anyway.

The rollercoaster is impermanent, we ride it anyway.

Love can definitely be impermanent but it comes with the opportunity to experience our greatest natural intoxication of bliss, connection and joy.

We go to sleep to rest and restore, only to get up and wear out, rinse, repeat.

I don’t stay in bed all day thinking, how impermanent the moment may be so why bother? What an odd contemplation.

For me, impermanence is the fuel, not the extinguisher.

I know I have limited time so yes I will love with every fibre of my being. And yes I have lost love and had my heart broken. Am I bitter, turned off or hesitant to love again pondering the point – no way. I don’t have that kind of time to spare in this one precious life. Afterall, the grieving and heartbreak following a break-up will last long enough. Once I have recovered and am ready I want to experience again.

Everything in life is a cycle. There will always be an up and always a down.  There is a coming together and moving apart, sometimes this means endings, sometimes it just signals a new cycle within a larger one.

At the end of the day, life is about living it. Losing yourself in it. Going in so deep the bigger picture is a blur around the edges.

The only things we will regret are the unknowns, what we didn’t try to know what the outcome was.

So yes I love again, live again, have good days, bad days, progress and stagnate – I respect it is all part of this wonderful, magnificent journey and invite you to dive in too.

Ponder, but then blur the edges of the big picture and go in deep. I’ll see you at the surface again in due course but you have to see what is down there for yourself.

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The Warrior’s Way


Our modern journey carries fragments of our warrior life from long ago.  From the times around a fire, spent celebrating through to the moments where we are alone on a dark, cold night, where the spirit that refuses to sink scratches to our surface and the strength of the world grows into our wings.

When we listen to the earth we remember the ways of the wise one.

That when the battle arises we stand strong.

When we are weary we rest and allow the healers to dress our wounds.

We sense when the battle isn’t ours and turn away.

We protect our hearts, our young and what our family stands for.

We pass on our wisdom giving it strength through sharing, never keeping wisdom a secret.

We know right from wrong and make a stand for justice.

We make personal sacrifices to stay true.

We do the hard work.

We work with the earth and honour the wisdom it brings to aid us on our journey.

We are free and wild yet peacefully focused.

We rise above.

We set clear boundaries and respect those of others.

We don’t settle for anything less than what our heart deserves – we know our worth.

We don’t get caught up in gifting meaning to objects.

We return home when it calls.

We make the kill nature requires of us to survive but also know when to cower.

We reflect on life to learn and grow.

We honour our strengths and respect our weaknesses.

We shine our light for all to see their way and protect it from those with darkness in their eyes.

We are upfront with the reality and do not play into fantasies.

We respect the journey given to us.

We howl at the moon when it calls.

We hibernate when winter knocks.

We are born anew for the spring when it signals our time.

We are fierce yet generous.

We honour the practice.

We let the lost battle soften and cleanse us, as we shed layers of times gone by.

We forgive our human ways and forgive those of others.

The temptations of the world are in our conscious yet we don’t feed them.

We ask ourselves the deeper question and respect our deep emotions.

An ear is always within – intuition is our greatest source of wisdom.

We respect our body but know we are more.

‘I am of this earth, I know I am of all. I seek the moon to remind me that I am you and you are me, and so I remember to bring my open heart always. I know my inner warrior is strongest open, holding a space for love, creating a trail of truth and honour through the power of surrendering to the journey through the wisdom of all that guides whilst embracing the ancient wisdom, always.’


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The Key is on the Path


The Key is on the Path

That answer you seek,

…the revelation you pray for ,

…the easing of suffering you wait for,

…it won’t come hoping you might be ready.

You have to begin the journey – give evidence you are ready.

Then along your journey it will unfold.

You will figure it out along the way and not a moment before.

The key is on the path.





Bigger Isn’t Better, Slower Is

We have recognised the unsustainable speed at which we have sped up our daily lives.

Meditation and mindfulness, once only for the hippies, is now a mainstream activity, here is an article on why it is so important for us all and how to find a practice for you.

Yet we struggle to let go. We struggle to find the time. We struggle to move at a normal pace, which now  feels slow.

After an extremely busy month where extra work commitments clashed with UNI exams and finding a new home, I began loosing sleep and found myself so tightly wound up and I couldn’t relax. I was walking fast, talking fast and listening to my heart beat fast in my ear as I lay awake in bed, more on that here.

But, like everything is in life, it was impermanent and passed.

I am still reflecting on this experience and how I can help myself during periods of high stress, but have put in place what I know, and added going slow.

I walk to work and often rush down the hill, but I decided to stroll at a more relaxed pace. I was surprised to find that I arrived in the same time watching those race past me, meet me at the next set of traffic lights.

I took the slow movement into the day and noticed my head follows suit, that instead of racing away with various thoughts, whilst this still occurs, more and more I am finding amongst the rush, I am more present, calm and in turn, more focused.

I am now eating slow, going to sleep slow, dressing slow – all at a pace that once wasn’t really slow at all.

I am loving how slow is making me more mindful as it holds me in the moment.



The funny part is, slowing down is making me more productive.

When I am present and intentional I am able to focus in and get the job done extremely well.

When study is my slow movement I am taking more in, retaining, learning, remembering.

With my partner, slow, well I will leave that to your imagination but again obviously it benefits.

There is nothing about becoming slower in my day-to-day that I don’t love.

I can only encourage you to reflect and consider if slower is also better for you too?

What can you do slowly today Even just begin with slowing down your walking pace.


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10 Often Unexpected Areas Simplifying Your Life Covers 


Simplifying my life, whether you call it minimalism, intentional, focused, is all that and more, has brought me face-to-face with cleaning up more than just the furniture in my home.


Multi-tasking is a Mindfulness killer. Your commitments, how many and how they overlap comes into view when you start thinking about what has meaning in your life.  Taking on too much and trying to do a number of items at once reduces our ability to be present and mindful. It creates an unhealthy level of stress and takes away from our calm inner peace.
Pick one task, do it well, present with clarity and calm.
That person in front of you, put the phone away, cancel other overlapping commitments and sink into their company – you will never regret this.


Those in the form of nick-nacks, collections, sports equipment, jewellery, kitchenware, DVDs, just to name a few, also need review.


Are you someone that has a list of to-dos that continues to increase? Or do you sign up for multiple online courses and workshops without taking the time to implement the learnings, as I was/am still working on? Get real about what you can do, if all this extra noise isn’t directly in line with your higher purpose consider cutting it out, or putting it on a list and putting it to the side for 12 months whilst you test out actioning less and see how you feel. We only have so much time in our life and most of us want down time in there too, it is healthy, but we must create space for it.


How many social media apps do you have? Yet how many do you actually connect with or get something valuable from when you use them? Remove any that are only visited here and there when you a just killing time – you really don’t have enough of it to be killing it off.


Write up where to begin and chip away with focus. Keep it front of mind when you go to make that next purchase, or how much further all the pennies spent elsewhere could be adding up to a holiday.


When you communicate with more intent and compassion you find you speak less and therefore you hear more. Be present, listen to what they are really saying, what is underlying this dialogue rather than think about what to say next and see your relationships thrive.


There is a great challenge going around about avoiding any negative comment or complaint for a week. It is amazing how often we whinge. Give it a go, you will feel amazing at the end.


I have a passion for food and nutrition that has lead to studying a Bachelor of Nutrition. This was born of peeling back what didn’t serve me and when it came to food a lot of what I was consuming didn’t serve me. When I got to the heart of it I uncovered a real passion in understanding what nourishes me and supports my peak mental and physical performance with longevity in mind.  Whilst my interest will be more involved than most, it is a truly enjoyable ritual to return to – cooking. Learning new wholesome food that you can cook with your family or alone, that leaves you feeling light and energised has been one of the best changes. And what hasn’t worked out has been some of the funniest times my partner and I still laugh about. Zucchini Noodle Spaghetti Bolagianse and Cauliflower Fried Rice have become two new stables and household favourites for all.


I travelled to Cambodia with a backpack. I 3 outfits and just the basics, and loved it. I didn’t miss anything at all. Having less and using less along the way made for a wonderfully light across country trip. Living a minimalist life prepared me perfectly for a holiday that became about the people and place I was visiting.


When you get home from your trip, don’t let the sorting of your photos be a project that gets pushed to the side. Get the photos printed, delete the duplicates and lower quality photos and really enjoy the reflection this brings in the weeks preceding. Digital detoxing might not be as visible, but it feels just as great to tackle as well.


Find more tips and info on simplifying your life in my book: Five Bedrooms to Five Boxes; A Guide to Living Simply with Purpose.