Life IS About Feeling Unsure, Uncertain and Afraid

Let’s embrace the reality.

We are unsure.

We are afraid.

Most of us don’t have a single defining purpose, and that is what is real and true.

I am asked what I want to be still at 34 years of age like each change is supposed to be heading my ‘life/career/hobbies’ in a specific direction.

For me, life does have other plans and rather than get frustrated when my initial direction takes a turn I have learnt more wisely to enjoy the ride. These unexpected turns have led to some of life’s biggest joys and breakthroughs.

The breakdown of a dream is hard, stagnation sucks and mistakes are embarrassing, but they are also a part of life.

The life flow I have learnt to be ok with has included years of feeling lost, sometimes career wise, sometimes personally, sometimes in every single area of life. There have been times where I feel like I have gone backwards and some, where I have felt held down.

It is extremely hard when you’re left without an answer or direction.

Whilst it is hard, I now practice surrender. I am learning to ride the wave of it without letting nausea take over, knowing the feeling of being a lost ship does result in turning up on a beach somewhere but that never feels soon enough in the storm.

There is a lot of noise about pushing yourself to be, to do, to define it all and I am over that noise. Turn it off!

I wrote about how sometimes no answer is THE answer, read about it here.

I have learnt that being held down is still leading me somewhere – time will go on and the sun will rise again. The last lull forced me to come back in and find a pause. To be okay with the stillness and uncertainty in direction. And oddly enough only when I found a settled space in myself and surrendered to being there did the new direction appear – it was a

The last lull forced me to come back in and find a pause. To be okay with the stillness and uncertainty in direction. And oddly enough only when I found a settled space in myself and surrendered to being there did the new direction appear – this most recent voyage spanned two long 2 years.

Let’s more wisely recognise that life is all about cycles. Sometimes we will be uncertain, sometimes we will fall, get stuck and not know what it is all about or for.

And that is so very okay.

 

 

 

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9 Tips to Simplify Stuff

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Reduce rather than reorganise.

Only purchase to replace.

Go home and evaluate what you have got and where you will place it, consider how you will use it and check nothing else could do the job.

Keep clear bench tops and tables, this will help you remain in check about putting everything away and bring about a really enjoyable spacious feeling.

Do a little each day. Clean up one draw, one counter whenever you have 5 minutes spare. Don’t consider where to start, just start with what is closest.

Distance reduces the emotion. If you haven’t used it in 6 months and still cannot bear to part with it, pack it away for a few months and then revisit it.

Forget sales/bargains. Only buy what is on the shopping list. A $1 spent on a $2 item is still a $1 spent and those add up – and double in value when placed on debt.

Crowd out excess shopping with a new intentional hobby.

Consider with intention your TV time, particularly if you have multiple TVs in your home. Redirecting this time also reduces your exposure to commercials which impact our buying significantly.

Instead of trying to stop doing what you don’t want to – crowd it out with more of what you do want to – focus there and arrive.

 

 

Simplicity – Forget Clean Spaces and Focus on Why

 

We are hearing more and more about minimalism, simplicity, intentionalism and sparking joy.

We think of clean desks, spacious rooms, and simple designs – and sadly in doing so we miss the point.

The true meaning for me is one of just that – meaning. I am clear that what doesn’t have a real purpose, hold a key value or meaning in my life, instead detracts from life.

Clutter isn’t fun. Spending more hours than necessary at work to buy things we don’t really need isn’t fun. Having to then work more to afford to rent space for this surplus stuff, even less fun.

If we get clear on what we need, not be so caught up in the want, we can live a little more.

I don’t want to spend hours working out what to wear.

I don’t want to spend hours having to clean and maintain stuff I don’t really need.

I don’t want to work beyond the years I must to set up a good life for myself. And that want will only be met by living a life acquiring only what I need and removing all that I don’t.

 

 

The Warrior’s Way

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Our modern journey carries fragments of our warrior life from long ago.  From the times around a fire, spent celebrating through to the moments where we are alone on a dark, cold night, where the spirit that refuses to sink scratches to our surface and the strength of the world grows into our wings.

When we listen to the earth we remember the ways of the wise one.

That when the battle arises we stand strong.

When we are weary we rest and allow the healers to dress our wounds.

We sense when the battle isn’t ours and turn away.

We protect our hearts, our young and what our family stands for.

We pass on our wisdom giving it strength through sharing, never keeping wisdom a secret.

We know right from wrong and make a stand for justice.

We make personal sacrifices to stay true.

We do the hard work.

We work with the earth and honour the wisdom it brings to aid us on our journey.

We are free and wild yet peacefully focused.

We rise above.

We set clear boundaries and respect those of others.

We don’t settle for anything less than what our heart deserves – we know our worth.

We don’t get caught up in gifting meaning to objects.

We return home when it calls.

We make the kill nature requires of us to survive but also know when to cower.

We reflect on life to learn and grow.

We honour our strengths and respect our weaknesses.

We shine our light for all to see their way and protect it from those with darkness in their eyes.

We are upfront with the reality and do not play into fantasies.

We respect the journey given to us.

We howl at the moon when it calls.

We hibernate when winter knocks.

We are born anew for the spring when it signals our time.

We are fierce yet generous.

We honour the practice.

We let the lost battle soften and cleanse us, as we shed layers of times gone by.

We forgive our human ways and forgive those of others.

The temptations of the world are in our conscious yet we don’t feed them.

We ask ourselves the deeper question and respect our deep emotions.

An ear is always within – intuition is our greatest source of wisdom.

We respect our body but know we are more.

‘I am of this earth, I know I am of all. I seek the moon to remind me that I am you and you are me, and so I remember to bring my open heart always. I know my inner warrior is strongest open, holding a space for love, creating a trail of truth and honour through the power of surrendering to the journey through the wisdom of all that guides whilst embracing the ancient wisdom, always.’

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The Only Diet to Ever Concern Yourself With

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As a studying nutritionist, you could say I take a keen interest in food.

I have tried, researched and read clinical trials conducted on various diets, and sometimes (rarely) even uncover a key takeaway I build into my daily routine.

I have learnt a thing or two about big corporations who have paid for ‘medical studies’ that provide consumers misleading information which in turn is just about selling a product. The low-fat era of the past was a big one of these – yes I choose full-fat dairy and eat lots of natural fats.

I have listened to my body and adjusted my diet, not so much in a diet sense where it is about short term dress size, but rather, eating for a lifestyle of energy, health, mental sharpness and inner calm.

But if I was to give a broad piece of advice on diets, it wouldn’t be about the food at all.

Whilst yes, you should eat more real food, grown locally where possible with the least amount of chemical and human intervention, there is a key piece of advice that comes before all of this.

It is to eat in a mindful, present, relaxed state.

 

Eating in a way that you listen to how your meal talks to your body, noticing how you feel during and after.

 

In a way where you actually just sit and eat, not read, not surf the net.

Eat in a way where you are eating when hungry, stopping when full.

Eating in a time and space created for eating.

Eating where you taste the flavour explosions each bite fills your mouth with.

Eating and understanding how the meal unfolds in your stomach, how that feels as energy, lightness and happiness – because all are impacted.

Eating at the best time for you, not right before bed.

Eating in honour of what upsets or causes allergy or bloating in you. Understanding the message your body delivers through discomfort and thanking your body for talking with you so you can deliver to it what is right for your individual being.

Eating for a healthy life as a whole, not a rushed taste of sweetness.

Eating is a pleasurable act, one that warrants space, and calm.

If food enters our body when we are rushed and full of stress, the required enzymes may not be properly secreted for digestion, and the full nourishment of the meal may not be obtained by your body.

We need to tell our body, by the way we approach the very act of eating, it is safe, calm and peaceful, and therefore it is ok to fully digest and take nourishment from this meal.

 

 

Practice today sending it a calm message, that says it is safe to focus on self-nourishment from this meal and feel the change inside and out.

 

 

If you are struggling and would like to work with me reach out by emailing me at senseofyou@hotmail.com for one of my summer coaching places just made available whilst I am on UNI break from studying a Degree in Nutrition.

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