Routine Kills Time and Maybe You Are Not Fine: Why Shaking Up Your Day Makes Way For a Longer Life


What causes time to feel like it has disappeared?

How can I hack time to slow down and give me back that self-fulfilment I experienced as a child?

Another month or a whole year? Then you ponder ‘what was it I did for myself last year?’

Yay it’s Friday again, another week has whizzed by, woohoo!

Ah bugger, it is Monday again – already!

I recognize this can happen all to easily. So much so I have made a point of exploring how to slow down time. What I have uncovered is that routine is the usual suspect here.

We are on auto pilot by doing roughly the same thing, day in, day out and the minutes just slip by. This is what makes it hard to remember what we did yesterday, or had for dinner last night. It isn’t at the forefront of our active brain because it happened on auto pilot.

Yet we are idea machines. We crave adventure, exploration, soul nourishment, making something of ourselves, finally doing that thing, but so often we feel the discomfort in it and casually dismiss it by telling ourselves we will get to it later or that we just don’t have the time.

We don’t have the time to put thirty minutes a day or every other day, towards something we are insanely passionate about, yet we can fit in x number of TV hours and keep up-to-date with our latest shows.

I decided I personally would do what some determined a radical move by permanently removing TV ownership from my life a couple years ago. I also rarely keep up with current affairs and news in the mainstream media. I believe that journalism has left much to be desired and found I was rather force fed advertising and celebrity news. This is my preference, not owing a TV doesn’t say I will stick my head in the sand but for me it keeps my routine less routine.

I fill the time I have with learning, growth and challenges. I stretch myself to be a better person, to be enabled to enrich others’ lives by assisting or finding ways I can make a difference instead of just reading about it and feeling sad before I dismiss it.

I constantly look for ways to grow and make my years count.

I search for ways of keeping a sense of exploration alive in daily life – I grip tightly to a childlike sense of wonder.

I found David Eagleman, kick that off by showing it can be as simple as seeking novelty in your daily setting he covers in this two minute clip.

The auto pilot setting is dragging us down. We feel dissatisfied but stuck.

I used to get that pang of guilt. After all, this isn’t the disappearance of just a bit of spare time. This is my life – my most irreplaceable, precious gift that is slipping away second by second. That finite number of days gifted and on countdown – sure to come to an end any unknown moment.

I previously wrote about a quote that noted the definition of hell as meeting the person you could have been on your last day.

So I search and stretch for ways to make it count. I got around to writing that book, and another. I am mentoring others to do the same, I am about to embark on facilitating workshops to drive desire into the lives of many kindred spirits.

This is made possible by pushing myself. I have stopped screwing myself over, as so beautifully summed up in this great twenty minute talk by Mel Robbins on How to Stop Screwing Yourself Over. It is as she so pointedly puts it simple, but it isn’t easy to make the important changes.

Making it count is about acting on impulse. Don’t let fear in. Act with a reckless edge. Learn along the way, adjust the sails and push on. Tweet: Making it count is about acting on impulse. Don’t let fear in. Act with a reckless edge. Learn along the way, adjust the sails and push on.

You don’t have to, nor should you, play it safe. You only get one chance at this life! Give it a real go! Tweet: You don’t have to, nor should you, play it safe. For fuck’s sake – you only get one chance at this life! Give it a real go!

But don’t be put off because all you need to do today is just make one small adjustment. Maybe it is just the mental soak-in of this. Or taking Mel’s advice and setting that alarm early tomorrow and getting up before you have time to think about it.

I have also saved the best until last and absolutely love this four minute video. This amazing video, one of the best I have ever seen, sums this all up nicely and (I hope) inspires you to challenge your norm, too.

I would love for you to comment below on what your one change is or send me an email at

If you are stuck and want some guidance, drop me a line at and I can let you know about my mentorship packages so you can be guided into a life you love, simply. I won’t promise it will be easy, but I will make it simple for you.


1 Comment

  1. Alyce September 25, 2015

    Love this article Talisa! So true that we slip into autopilot so easily. I rarely watch tv but in moments when my energy is low I can feel myself slip into time-zapping activities. Completely agree life is so precious that we need not waste it. thanks so much for the reminder xx


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