I find most people are in one of two categories. They are either trying to do everything or nothing much.
There is no right or wrong.
There is no big life rule that says you must push yourself to achieve all you can possibly achieve, nor is there any rule that says you must spend your down time as just that and nothing else.
Yet, we guilt ourselves no matter our situation.
Those chillin cats savouring the fruits of their laborious working hours with slow walks, a good TV series and a number of well read books are watching the busy bees pondering if they should also be striving to achieve in their downtime.
For the busy bees, there is guilt in not achieving enough, fast enough or successfully enough with the flipside guilt they are not getting enough downtime, whilst asking them self, ‘What is the most productive way to have downtime?’
I am a busy bee and I do look on a little enviously at the relaxing downtime of those chillin cats. But I acknowledge I cannot sit still for long periods of time. My ideas would swell inside until I burst.
Just a someone who enjoys their unscheduled downtime should definitely dive into that guilt free.
I appreciate the calm and steadiness someone who can chill brings into my life. I need them. They balance me. Just like I need other busy bees to buzz around with sometimes.
There is no doubt the chilling cats need a buzzer to sometimes pull them along. But they also need times with other chillin cats to be at ease without having to discuss what to do, how to do it or where to go.
The key is losing the guilt and finding your unique flow into one, the other and the spaces in between as it works for you.
It is important to check in with yourself to make sure you are ok; you are not running yourself ragged, nor are you letting life’s dreams float on by.
All in all, being the person you are is the perfect way to be.
There is no guilt in being who you are; a busy bee or a chillin cat – just be you.
Photo: Jorunn Lorenzen