The 31 Most Important Lessons of My 31 Years


In no particular order

  1. You will die. Sounds so dramatic but it is the surest things in your life. Understand and be fully aware that all you ever really have is this moment. There will be a day when the world is less you. You need to accept this and use it as motivation to say and act on what is in your heart with regard to love, forgiveness, encouragement and support.

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Pushing Boundaries

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I sympathize with the mother of the screaming two year old. I don’t have the blessing of being a mother yet, but I don’t dare give her a hard time at a time when it is obviously hard enough. It always saddens me when people scold her for the child’s behaviour, and I wonder how well these nosey asses behaved when they were in their terrible twos.

I know that despite parents’ best efforts, there will be tantrums, screams and howling cries as the boundaries are pushed. It’s part of the learning process. Growing up, we push our parents, their rules, the requirements of our first jobs and our stamina. Our subconscious is trained into behaviours based on the reactions we get in pushing the boundaries of those around us.

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A Happiness List

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What speaks directly to your heart? What makes you smile or laugh out aloud?

Have you ever made a happiness list to see, on paper, what sings to you? I highly recommend it. I have done it on my own and with various friends.

What turns up on these lists (I will leave a brief list of mine at the end)? I have yet to see anyone listing a car, a new shirt, a piece of furniture, or a jet ski. What people list are things you cannot buy; the items can be summed up as experiences, including time with friends and family.

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Your Worth

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At our very core, so many of us are tightly wound with insecurities.

We often don’t feel good enough, smart enough, qualified enough, or worthy enough.

These insecurities can become our undoing, our own personal attack on the good things in our lives.

We put on our smiles each day to cover these insecurities up, pretending they are not there, and, for the most part, as an interim measure, we succeed.

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The Impact Of The Chapter Quote

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I collect only one thing in life—the well-written word. For me, this refers to quotes, poems and good stories, essentially, anything written that triggers an emotional response from me.

I understand why writers who come across a piece of someone else’s work that is so meaningful or particular to their work that they inject right at the top as a prelude.

But, as I am now reading a book that includes pre-chapter quotes, I find myself reading quotes with little relevance as I have yet to read the chapters concerned, and I ponder this fact.

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