Why are we always so quick to tear each other down?
Everyone you meet is doing the best they can.
Everyone you meet has an internal fight of some sort.
Everyone you meet has a story, a piece that hurts, a fear.
We are all on this same human journey; doing our best to carefully navigate through all the sharp edges of the world.
We all have something we are struggling with.
So then, why wouldn’t we rally together and help out one of our sisters/brothers of this world.
Why must it be a competition?
Why can we not take all these negative emotions and turn them into positive ones, and lift each other up?
Let’s not be jealous, let us use this feeling as a fuel to better ourselves.
Jealousy isn’t a true feeling – it is a cover feeling, it hides a fear. Fear of not being adequate enough or of anticipated loss. It is an emotion of insecurity and often becomes this mix of anger, resentment, inadequacy, helplessness or disgust.
When we feel this negative cocktail of emotions it can sadly result in us acting on this destructive rush.
My favorite authors are Nikki Gemmell and Elizabeth Gilbert. I am absolutely smitten with their work. But I am not jealous. I am inspired. It makes me write more, research, practice, try harder, push myself.
If I were to choose jealousy I may instead speak out against their work, tear it down, put them down, look for flaws, or just ignore them completely. I could let it make me feel like my work was inadequate, wasn’t worth bothering with, and let this behavior make me nasty, narrow minded and cold.
What a waste of a learning opportunity and inspiration.
If jealousy arises we must seek to understand it. What is causing this – what are we afraid of in ourselves.
We can only be jealous if we are uncertain in ourselves.
If we know who we are, where we are going and that we are doing the best we can, and give ourselves a human break along the way to stumble and make a few mistakes, we really cannot be jealous.
It comes back to the hot topic that our actions, at their core, either come from love or fear.
So, as a planet, let’s choose love.
Let’s choose self-love and seek to understand what arises within us. Understand where it comes from and take a moment to reset it. Turn that sucker around into something of love before it emerges into the world.
Let’s choose love for others in doing this.
Let’s choose love for the world with peace in our hearts.
But also, let’s understand this is no easy journey. The easy choice is fear, jealousy or ignorance.
The hard journey I encourage you to take with me, and we will need to work on it, and we will stumble sometimes, but what matters is we are doing the best we can to choose love.